![]() ![]() If I am not helpful to people I will not exist anymore. It's not like, 'okay it would be nice to have a relationship', 'It would be cool to be helpful', 'It's a good thing to be a helpful human being.' And that's why the word "must" is a key here. It goes all the way down, again, to the very, very, very core sense of safety and existence. So in the case of people with personality type two of the Enneagram, you can say that for them to be loved and to be safe and avoid being inconsequential and unworthy of being loved, I must be in relationships with others and help them. We said that in the previous videos.Īnd the tactics of our personality, the entire structure, aims to fulfill our need and avoid our fear. So as we said, the strategy is a desire to fulfill our need and to avoid what we are afraid of. Even though we all have that, for them it's the core fear. It all depends on how much work you've done in your life and how much you went and saw behind the scenes how your mind works. Just like for type one, their core fear, we all have a part of that but for them, that's the main, main, main fear in their life. There are some rooms that you spend more time in and there's one room that you spend the most time in.Īnd so for people of type two, that fear of being unworthy of love is bigger than for the rest of us. Now again, everybody has that fear on some level, but we're talking about the modality - the Enneagram is a modality that is dynamic and we all have access to all nine rooms if you remember that analogy. That's the core fear - being unworthy of love. If I'm inconsequential, dispensable, useless and all that, I am unworthy of being loved. So in the case of type two, on top of these two or together with these two, you have a relationship as the core need.Īs far as the core fear goes, that is being inconsequential, being dispensable, being useless, being needy, being ignored or left out or unwanted, being out of the loop of relationships in which I can be approved of, recognized, admired and all that. If I don't have a relationship with others, I can't give and I can't receive.Īnd as we said in the video about type one, it's always together with the two core needs that we all have, which are survival, or safety, and love. This serves my need or my core belief that I must give in order to receive. The core need or what they want the most is relationships.īecause then I can feel loved. So from this core belief, we can see the core need and the core fear of type two. I must be close to people so that I could give them, so I could be important or even indispensable to them so that I'll be able to get my needs met too. So if that is what's going on in the world, if you have to give in order to receive, I must be in a relationship with people. So it goes way back down all the way to our deepest needs and our survival and all that. In this world, you must give in order to receive.Īnd that includes not just receiving gifts, that includes receiving love, receiving safety. It all starts from the core belief.Īnd type two's core belief about the world is this: So it all starts from where, if you remember? The core belief. And so the personality is our way to try and deal with that, get what we want, avoid what we're afraid of, and so on, and so on.Īnd all the behavioral patterns that we're seeing are aimed to serve that. The personality is basically the defense mechanism, a way to deal with what's happening in the world.Īnd a lot is happening, not just these days, right? There's always something. The Enneagram type is a defense mechanism. Now as we said before in the previous videos, it all starts from the core belief, right? So without further ado, let's talk about type two, The Proud Helper. It will be a quick description of each type, and it is going to be beautiful. So there's only so much I can dive into - even in an online course there's only so much I can dive into.įor more details about my Enneagram courses, visit E-School™, our Enneagram school, at /eschool.īut the important thing is that here, in the Enneagram Blueprint series, I'm going to give you the essential blueprint of the nine types. This is not my full online course or non-online, in-person course. ![]() ![]() I'd definitely give that one a good look even if you're not interested in type one for whatever reason, at least the first few minutes just to get that.Īnd the first video is an introduction to the Enneagram world, what is it exactly, and how to use it in a very powerful way that is beyond just knowledge and typing people around. Now, if you haven't seen the previous videos in the series, we have the first video which is what is the Enneagram and how is it changing so many people's lives Īnd in that video about type one, there are some important notes about finding your type and about the names of the types. And this time, type two, The Proud Helper. We're in another video in our Enneagram Blueprint series.
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